There have been so many
twisted poisons spread by this person who is literally my blood sister, it's hard to understand how we could come from the same parents, but also raised under the same roof. Frankly, the treatment during mom's last weeks was quite shocking, as she knew how hard I was taking it and she took that opportunity to dredge up painful issues that were literally over twenty years old and twisted on top of that. When I recalled a statement made by mom several times that proved her incorrect she, in her normal style ignored her own mother's words which were, "It was not what you said, but how you said it." (Wendy had claimed I told mom she was not part of my family; it's my belief Wally twisted this and several other very effective poisons.)
However, there have been several occasions where there was no incentive for her to twist the facts and were clearly issues of memory, but what about those instances when the untwisted facts were presented and she ignored them as if she preferred the twisted version to back up some background negative feeling that needed a foundation? Never was an apology presented for any of her antics: the public scenes, the mistakes over financial issues or poisonous gossip or even the outright lies. She grew up with a very bad father relationship, although has told me she dreaded when I went off to boy scouts my presence presented a form of protection to her.
For whatever reason, perhaps our different crowds and my moving out when I was 16, we were never close as kids; while I lived outside the house as a kid never did anyone try to make contact with me. However, when she followed me to California she never hesitated to ask for whatever help she needed and it was never withheld; she was my sister. However, for the two times in my life when I needed serious support, she was unable to be there. When I pointed this out to mom she said that Wendy baby sat for me once or twice and that was not only true, but also spoke legions as to the basic difference with children that she and I had; perhaps it was due to her never having bonded with kids.
Now the stay under this roof was not easy for either of us and without a doubt, she had the worst part of it.
Forgiveness has been key in our relationship or we would have parted company decades ago when her unmitigated selfishness, lack of respect for the desires or needs of others, her inability to see through the eyes of any others, not to mention a discernible ethics model or boundaries. With her there always existed an uncertainty as to what she would do, how she would react; too often it resulted in danger or pain in others that most would have been able to anticipate and far too often it involved feelings of my girls. There's one group of feelings that any decent parent can never forget and those are the one that result in pain of our children. Once the complete absence of our baby when we returned from our first trip to Hawaii away therefrom only to learn she had stopped by, told the sitter, a dear friend and mother that she had our permission, to take our baby on a plane out of state. A call by the way, she never bothered to make and knew fully well would have never been approved. This is Wendy, "What can they do at this point?"
Once Courtney had gotten Wendy this orange snake like ring and naturally to her it was very special gift. After Wendy had been presented with the gift, picked out and bought by Courtney herself, an incredibly thoughtful deed for a 7 year old, turned to tears when Wendy went off and left it laying on the counter. I still recall Courtney bringing it to me in tears wondering why she did not want it and then the many times that Jordan was left in pain wondering what was wrong with her and why only Courtney was picked up to go 'shopping'. It was not like she wanted to hurt their feelings; it was like what they were thinking never entered her thought process, but it was still very frustrating picking up the pieces and those from the shopping trips were actually dealt with is a very positive way by mom taking Jordan out for her special occasions. Mom was a great Grandma Honey, but her patience had been wearing thin during these times and she could only handle one at at time.
Linda and I had many conversations on my feelings and confusions as to why my kids were closer to her, all the way in Arizona, than to their relatives in Walnut Creek. Part of it was job situations and the other part was they were too young to go shopping or to the beauty shops. For some reason these were the two activities my mom felt comfortable taking them and after
'Reviving Ophelia' had crossed my reading list, I attempted to stop or limit these actions. This was twisted by Windy into "Shopping is bad for you."; not even close, but a hair of truth was there, it seemed, to allow the rancid gossip to stick.
How one could be so filled with spite, hatred and apparent arrogance, despite her accomplishments is something that's evaded me to this very day. With both a poor memory and a little light in the area of ethics has made understanding from where she's coming very difficult to ascertain at time. The recent poisons and ridicule, all but confirming the 'diagnosis' of my ex-wife and made me aware of as recent as our mother's last days will be laid out for all to see.
1) Wendy has always had the most incredible nerve that makes one literally frightened to get too close; it's sort of strange as her father evoked very similar feelings as his reactions too were well beyond predictions and too frequently would involve great pain. The alcohol the two of them share, IMHO, added to these similarities, but she is much more like him that her mother as mom's actions were usually done while completely sober; she was not much of a drinker and did have a heart. (Unless someone was spinning her very vulnerable emotions as clearly happened on several occasions; the first time this became very clear was during Courtney's High school graduation party where Wally had coached her into saying, as they made their entrance, "We just stopped by to get something to eat." Earlier in the day he make it very clear he was using her as his personal Chauffeur as they arrived to Acalanes with Satanos sitting in the back seat with her driving him around; he was quite good at pushing my buttons and it never ceased to amaze me why she stayed with him considering his priorities.
This unpredictability, for lack of a better word, first manifested when we had gone to Hawaii and left our newborn baby, Courtney, with the a person we trusted deeply. Wendy, went over and told her we had given her permission to take Courtney to Phoenix and off she went with our baby. At this stage of her life we would NEVER have trusted her to take care of our cats, let alone our baby, and she deceives our friend to get control of the family jewel. Can you imagine returning home where you've first been without your newborn for an entire week. The anticipation at the airport, the ride home, the arrival only to find not, only is your baby unavailable, but has been taken out of the state.
2) I will not even go into the
various public scenes she's created when her expectations were not met; it was due to this that we decided to limit our public exposure with her. Wendy, well being who she is, actually attempted to crash one of our private birthday parties. (This was directly due to the public scenes made when she learned we would be dividing up the $450, bill from Scott's Seafood in Walnut Creek, and she began throwing the silverware around in her anger at out not picking up he tab.)
3) She actually called our marriage counselor, Denny, and told her "
she knew my problem; I did not like women." She had deduced this, apparently, from my having trouble with her perpetually lying and attempting to manipulate me; she shared this incorrect opinion with Courtney too, but naturally left off the reason. In fact she told Court it was because she had been deeply hurt at my 'accusing her' of turning in the picture that had black and blue chalk marks on the backs of Courts legs. She had never been accused of anything, but was asked and it was very clear from her reaction that she was telling the truth. Our family with all it's faults, did not have spinelessness the way most of the the MartiniLambs presented; completely and utterly without brains, spines or ethics. (At least those raised under the Helen Gene and it was too bad that Bud Lampert did not assert his qualities as an engineer as he was the single person in their family with an ounce of ethics and spine that I could find.) He did not like my stupid habit of telling people who they were and lack of a formal college degree, but he did pop some circular quizzes upon me once the results of which seemed to impress him; he was clearly a brilliant man and despite his occasional rudeness I respected his intellect and him as a person.
The other fear we had was Windy teaching the girls to lie to us when her desires of the rules clashed with ours. The last time this happened it resulted in Jordan going over to a boys house, completely unescorted, and coming home stoned on Marijuana. It never occurred to her that what I did not like was quite simply sneaking and lying manipulators, etc. Or did it? It's not like we never spoke of this and once she told me that "You make me lie." as in "Ask me no questions...."
The counselor told us Windy was told, 'Your problems with Tim have nothing whatsoever to do with Tim's problems with Viki", but I'm sure Wendy did not get this admonishment and Denny, it seemed, had an agenda of her own and it certainly low on the list was repairing any marital problems as she too could not see the OCD Viki was manifesting all over the place. She too seemed to throw salt onto any wounds that came up, apparently to make them worse.
4) Wendy said,
"You were going around bragging that you were a millionaire." How this myth originated is somewhat speculative, but when it was heard I about fell out of my chair; clearly another hate induced spin job; what did happen is the following. During a discussion with my dear grandfather late in his life, "Pepa", he told me, "Now Timmy, you save your money!" To which I replied, "Pepa don't you worry about that a bit. I've just type all our assets into a computer and it added up to over a million dollars." To this he said, "A million dollars?, well why don't you send me some?" in a joking voice.
Someone had later told me that he went around bragging that his grandson was a millionaire and I believe Mema assumed that I'd had just told him this out of thin air; there were many ill feelings surrounding Pepa's death and from there the myth took on a life of it's own. This was my first lesson that not all your loving relatives were happy to see you do well financially; this was a very confusing concept for my brain.
The first time it was passed on to me was from my aunt Linda, with whom, before Pepa's passing I had always been close; during Pepa's final days I was to hear hateful reactions and feelings from my second and third "moms", Mema and Linda, that had never theretofore been felt; pains that I'd never before thought them capable of inflicting.
"So I hear you're a millionaire." Linda said in a very sarcastic tone; I was then clueless as to what she was even speaking of. It seemed very odd that although not a single person had heard me make such brags in my entire life, that all of a sudden they would start. What was very perplexing and even disappointing was that certain people in the family seemed jealous and not happy for what we had accomplished. Deductive reasoning seemed to be in short supply in my family.
4) Wendy said,
"You were saying that Dana trained her dog to pee on just your foot." While this had the desired affect of adding to the 'crazy' theme; it too was twisted. This came from an incident where Jordan and I were in the back yard at Wally's house and Dana came outside with her new very jealous dog and decided to almost get in my lap with and apparent sudden desire for closeness to me. Anyone with a dog IQ of over say 10, could tell you that if one has a dog with this known behavior, a form of jealousy, the way to trigger this behavior would be to stand very close to the target. Dana and Wally's response were the telling events, the first was Dana's complete silence after the deed and Jordan said, "Gosh, if my dog had done that to someone I would have been so embarrassed and apologizing all over the place. Then Wally and Dana walked over to the gate and Wally sniped in his loudest voice, "Well then let's give him some more water." in one of his usual and classic jabs.
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From: tim
To: Wendy Hughes
Subject:have you considered you could benefit
Date: Aug 9, 2009 2:19 AM
Wendy,
From the fact you might have serious issues with men in general and it pops out in the form of insecurities and/or taking it out on whoever is convenient? Considering the number of misfires you've had in relationships, I'd consider looking at this as honestly as possible. Viki had, as a small kid, problems with the only two males in her life; I'm fairly sure she too has issues in this area and also in areas of not being naturally maternal. Never voiced problems with my complete involvement with the girls and in party situations was always very appreciative of the wrong kind of attention from other men. Friends actually mentioned both items to me; their wives noticed the apparent lack of a maternal bond with the girls that they had with their girls. To me it was surprising she had no problems with Courtney being with a much older man during college.
This is probably why Jordan is still having problems as the deepest bonds were with ME until she was brainwashed with BS about my mental health. (Again, Viki's UNCLE, who knew NOTHING about what happened, told me what was happenening with the harassment. However not enough information though to fix it as I then had the wrong idea as to WHY it was happenening.)
FACT: The only difference between a dellusional/paranoid person and a person being harassed is one is imagining the harassment; ask any psychologist we're called 'Targeted Individuals'. This latest threat you drug the girls into had a witness; as did many other earlier events. (Yes I know you could not care less; that is not my point; the point here is, as you were unwilling/unable to read the literature, please refrain from empty opinions to the girls. They have no idea as to your complete lack of education and high school vocabulary, as became clear when you could not understand the Mobbing aspect of these crimes.)
I'm the one Jordan used to run to, day or night; I'm the one upon which she dumped tears or anger, day or night, even during the teen years when she would sleep next to my side of the bed. Have you forgotten she and I, doing homework during the summer of the 6th grade, and her getting on the honor role the next year at WCI? (Did you even know?) I've a hard time believing you never noticed her coming to me even when Viki was there.
With Jordan you cannot simply ask "how're you doing", unless you're very close. The way I saw you giving her "tough advice" on the porch that one day, I'm sure any closeness evaporated as you seemed to have lost all empathy skills for other people. You and mom have symptoms straight out of a mind control manual. Why else would mom say "Tim is part of a group that wants [or is] going to overthrow the US government?" She also said other things that were far out of character for her; VERY FAR.
I'd bet big money one of these two things is true with you as the bad stuff that happened to you, happened when you were very young and by someone in complete power and scary as he WAS very physical. It must have scared you to death hearing me get beaten; think about how a young girl would process the sounds of her brother getting strapped and yelling out in pain? I'd talk to a psychologist about it as it likely traumatized you thinking it could happen to you and is probably why you kept your mouth shut; you sublimated it out of fear. Exploring and reframing indicidents such as these can be very helpful. Perhaps, in some kid way, you blame me for being a boy scout or not seeing what was going on? After all that I've done for you and ZIPPO in the other direction all this animosity makes no sense. NONE. ZIP. ZERO. NATA.
How else can you explain the one way expectations and treatment you've doled out to the ONE MALE that provide forms of protections and support? (This also applied to Desi, but I've not done much for him; per say, except be his brother. It was not deliberate protection, but it was protection never the less as you did say "I used to dread Tuesdays because that's when you had boyscouts and Don would have access."
Wendy, there's a huge difference between exploring/understanding cause/effect and 'dwelling' on the past as during events like these things get pushed into the subconscious and can come out in other harmful ways. I truly believe this is still hurting your relationships. How many times can you count that my paranoia has been wrong? ZERO?
The same person that gave you a place to live, coming to your aid whenever you called, for whatever reason, regardless of your rather less that honest behavior. ("I thought you'd not love me if I told you the truth". "You make me lie" comments come to mind. Did you really think if you told me that you did not put gas in the Bronco due to being cheap I'd not love you or was that an execuse?
I dunno if you turned these things around to cause pain or if you had help, but the issues you brought up during mom's last days were extremely hurtful as was finding out she had been crying for four days in the hospital fearing her death when I did not even know. Thank G-d Jordan answered her phone that day.
Also, why you mentioned the reason she stayed alive for four days as she was waiting for me, but waited until she had died to tell me this. Do you understand why you did this?
The rest of the story was that in August time frame I had been able to successfully cut my pain patches in HALF by cutting my physical activities. However, it still meant when I sat for hours in a car my back would develop the knife and I'd be in big time pain. As it turned out this was a bad time to do this, but it was suggested by a very good doctor in Santa Cruz and I took her up on it.
-T
From: tim
To: Wendy Hughes
Cc: Courtney Anderson , Jordan Anderson , "sharmon2@mindspring.com" , "pspeh@yahoo.com"
Subject: Re: What made you think that Jordan got a call?
Date: Aug 9, 2009 2:19 AM
Wendy,
I really pitty you having all this left over hate from whoever about which you seem to delude yourself. You wrote below you don't "dwell upon the past", but then what happened the last days of our mom's life when you dredged up 20 year old garbage, twisted it and threw it in my already hurting face? (And then denied your mom's side of the story to boot, when mom said "It was not what you said, but how you said it". You were believing it the way you wanted to and that was that. You ignored moms final requests in so many ways; she became like Pepa and you became the opposite spitting hate and L I E S (i)) You then dredged up 10 year old poisons from Dana and threw that in my face; just for fun I guess. (Or perhaps it made you sleep better at night at something that happened behind the scenes with Wally?) I was curious as to why you stood there while Wally lied about my not having seen mom in six months when you knew full well I had just been there for her birthday. (Not her last one that from which I was excluded; the one before when Satanos made the scene in the hospital when I asked him if he'd make sure mom would get a decent doctor this time.)
Your apparent inability to read the above question in the subject and misinterpreting it as insinuating you were AGAIN lying is somewhat understood, but only due to the number of times you have lied to me. (This was why Viki suggested I TAPE your conversation and she was correct as you don't just lie you are a liar. If the truth does not feel good then you might want to change this habit of yours; you're a little old to still have this as a habit and it WILL affect your work relationships if people cannot trust you.)
You've not returned calls because there was nothing in it for you, or so you perceived and you had to lie, AGAIN, to justify that. During our last telephone conversation you told about your trips, being sick 10 times, and my only other request was to really find out how Jordan was doing. (ie. NOT JUST A LAZY "HOW ARE YOU?" PHONE CALL, TO DO SOMETHING HAVE A DEEP CONVERSATION; as hard as that is for you, I know.)
The only calls I've EVER gotten from you was when you needed something; like Dreamweaver, interfacing your Realtor file, help with your web site, paying your tabs, etc. etc.; this is nothing new and has defined our relationship since you moved here; G-d gave me a sister like you to assist with my forgiveness skills; you've certainly helped with those; after all the lying you've inflicted upon me just since you've been in
CAL you've certainly helped me with my self esteem in this area and for that I must thank you!
However dragging the kids into your selfish hate and lie fest was over the top, well for most people anyway. You've NEVER been predictable and this is why you have trouble with relationships. (You have your father's temper and deep seated hate issues and they were even exhibited in the email in one line while being denied in the next. See purple highlighted LIES BELOW.)
into your little temper tantrum of stupidity was over the top and only caused them damage. Not everyone has had a screwed up relationship with their father(s) and other men in their life as you have always have, so perhaps your ignorance is partially to blame.
"Hell hath no wrath of a women scorned"
You're likely still hurting over our turning down your offers in ~2000 of having dinners with you and Rich. Sorry, it was not meant to hurt but I did not want your behaviors of throwing fits or lying to rub off on my kids.
They, I'm very sure, will be unable to make the same excuses as you're still able to make and will be honest adults regardless of the bad examples deviating from this they did receive from family.
I know this because THEY have GOOD HEARTS and good consciences! They, like ALL others, will not be perfect, but they'll be better than most of the adults around here that seem to think lying is a skill set to be refined.
I cannot say there would not be a thing or two I'd change, if given the opportunity, but overall I'm quite proud of the way I raised them, with lots of quality time and attention that I know reflects on the extremely good way they have with taking care of kids and in other ways I'm sure. "Always tell the truth" etc. etc.
You also need to also recognize that most people, like me, have mostly GOOD things from the past upon which to "DWELL" and the way you treat me you think I had something to do with your ill childhood. You think that I never came to your aid the dozen or more times you needed it and then abused my time or ignored what I said and got screwed anyway. (NOT THAT YOU SHOULD DWELL ON IT; BUT DO NOT DELUDE YOURSELF EITHER; THIS IS WHY YOU KEEP GETTING RIPPED OFF by "FRIENDS". LOL! Some 'friends'.)
WILL YOU EVER LEARN???
(Very, VERY SMALL LIE LIST)
(i) Claimed I said,
a) "Dana trained her dog to pee on just my foot." L I E.
b) "Bragged to Pepa about being a millionaire." L I E.
c) Claimed to not dwell on the past HELLO?? How do you spell DOE DOE BIRD ? L I E, you displayed same in this very email .
d) Claimed I was 'paranoid' for warning you about loaning your money to Stan even though he RIPPED YOU? HELLO?
e) Claimed Farrell Nelson said "You'd see me on TV". (Farrell denied anything of the sort.)
You are so stuck in the past or it would not keep dribbling out of your mouth and behaviors. Have you seen anyone that behaves like you?
IF YOU DO NOT WANT YOUR ILL DEEDS GOING AROUND THEN PLEASE LEAVE ME OUT OF YOUR HALLUCINATIONS and LIES!
-----Original Message-----
>From: Wendy Hughes
>Sent: May 29, 2009 10:39 AM
>To: t
>Cc: Courtney Anderson , Jordan Anderson
>Subject: Re: What made you think that Jordan got a call?
>
>Tim:
>
>Stop
>this insanity. I have not called you back because I do not feel it is
>necessary. I don't have time to rehash everything that has ever
>happened in your life. I have no idea what any of this is about, nor do
>I care. Courtney and Jordan are doing great. None of this has any
>credence and it a waste of time.
>Regarding the phones calls you said
>came from Rich and I, the ones where I was ripped a new one and called
>a liar; they were probably the same kind that are occurring to people
>all over the planet. It's called pocket calls. Calls accidently made by
>sitting on your phone or inadvertently pressing the call button. I have
>actually received a few from you while you were driving somewhere with
>Jordan, a very long time ago.
>
>
>You have left several messages on Jordan's voice mail over the past several years. I obviously don't know what they were.
>Only what either Jordan or Viki told me. So please stop insinuating
>that I lied and said something that wasn't said. I'm tired of these
>emails that are copied to everyone on the planet, so please remove me
>from your list.
>
>I choose NOT to dwell on the past, so you can think whatever you want about me and my life. Frankly I don't give a damn.
>
>
>________________________________
>From: t
>To: Wendy Hughes ; Deda Darling
>Sent: Friday, May 29, 2009 5:27:27 AM
>Subject: What made you think that Jordan got a call?
>
>Trashing her mom? I've filed a police report as Richard told me he got several text messages from me that were not sent. Another message from an old activist
>friend gave me the impression he'd received a radical message from me
>regarding politics and I now have to wonder if that was spoofed.
>
>Surely
>you can see the multi-million dollar law firm having to go under due to
>an 'enhancement' to a program they had me make and suddenly all the
>harassment makes sense. what I knew was a threat to them and my boss,
>the only other person knowing about the software is now dead.
>
>Recently,
>while moving from Ida's a person first threatened me and then attempted
>to crash my RV at highway speeds; I've been remiss for not filing police reports.
>However, if I file a report and then Jordan tells them nothing happened it does not look good which was the goal all along. Courtney NEVER
>said she thought nothing was going on and like Viki, thought it was all
>related to "Steve Vanbibber". Unless he's able to leverage people in
>the WCPD, Lake Tahoe and the school, this was a ridiculous suggestion.
>
>PLEASE
>GET BACK TO ME ON THIS; these people have, quite successfully smeared
>me with my own family. Why does Linda not return my calls? Does she
>know about the mega million dollar law firm that had to shut down?
>
>Thanks
>for getting back to me on this as I cannot get any traction without
>solid information. Viki and Jordan denied having received any such
>calls.
>
>Regards,
>me
>
>________________________________
>From: t
>To: Wendy Hughes ; Deda Darling
>Sent: Friday, May 29, 2009 5:27:27 AM
>Subject: What made you think that Jordan got a call?
>
>Trashing her mom? I've filed a police report as Richard told me he got several text messages from me that were not sent. Another message from an old activist friend gave me the impression he'd received a radical message from me regarding politics and I now have to wonder if that was spoofed.
>
>Surely you can see the multi-million dollar law firm having to go under due to an 'enhancement' to a program they had me make and suddenly all the harassment makes sense. what I knew was a threat to them and my boss, the only other person knowing about the software is now dead.
>
>Recently, while moving from Ida's a person first threatened me and then attempted to crash my RV at highway speeds; I've been remiss for not filing police reports. However, if I file a report and then Jordan tells them nothing happened it does not look good which was the goal all along. Courtney NEVER said she thought nothing was going on and like Viki, thought it was all related to "Steve Vanbibber". Unless he's able to leverage people in the WCPD, Lake Tahoe and the school, this was a ridiculous suggestion.
>
>PLEASE GET BACK TO ME ON THIS; these people have, quite successfully smeared me with my own family. Why does Linda not return my calls? Does she know about the mega million dollar law firm that had to shut down?
>
>Thanks for getting back to me on this as I cannot get any traction without solid information. Viki and Jordan denied having received any such calls.
>
>Regards,
>me
>
From: tim
To: wendyahughes@yahoo.com
Subject: Communicating
Date: Jul 24, 2009 1:12 AM Wendy,
There are many other reasons for someone to be attacked that their having done something *wrong*, as you should know better than MOST. HELLO!
Jealousy, slanderous hate mongering, mental health problems, finding corruption to name a few.
Courtney and Jordan, (& you) were attacked by *strangers* and they had done NOTHING. Some people get high on power trips over others; it's a sickness.
What if someone said to you, "You MUST have done something" to have happen to you what happened to you? THINK ABOUT IT.
When I, a couple of years ago, mentioned a real fear I had about Don, before I could even get it out, you jumped to the conclusion that I was 'throwing something in your face'. [You were never for a moment, concerned about your nieces put at risk; only about your own personal feelings? It's no wonder you do not understand me my reaction would have been the exact opposite.]
That was an incorrect conclusion, but we never even got there because of your reaction.
The reason was picking up Courtney from having stayed with him for a few hours in an afternoon and finding her CRYING.
Needless to say later finding out what he had done to you made me wonder how in the hell you could have allowed me to risk BOTH kids with the sick bastard, but the well being of others never seems to enter that pea brain of yours.
I'm not saying a meaningful life cannot be had or that I want your pity, just understanding and reasonable judgments, if you must, based on the facts. ALL THE FACTS.
Have you been bedridden due to having what feels like a knife in your back because you walked too far, sat too long in a car, both, and/or lifted too much?
Or having to take 24/7 pain medication and then pain pills when the above happens?
Do you suppose this is where the 'Don't judge a person until you've walked two moons in their moccasins" came from?
Wendy, considering your background, one really wonders how you feel comfortable judging ANYONE; you're certainly in NO superior position to anyone, except perhaps Don.
When we last spoke I tried to relate a very old feeling I and before it could even complete, you were telling me what I could have/should have done. I was unable to even finish the part where I thought MY FEELINGS were wrong and you were telling me
advice. Lacking was the ability to even hear me out let along try to understand what I was saying. I *sincerely* hope I'm the only one who triggers this reaction.
When I last saw you ancient 20+ year old poisons were "rehashed", to use your word, into my face you would not even listen or could not hear the rest of the story. All of it had been twisted
in one way or another and I DO NOT THINK IT WAS YOU.
If a car had been involved, instead of words, it would be called 'hit and run'.
What happened to the person that had feelings, emotions and empathy?
Just a year or so before your feelings were OK enough to allow me to help you with your website and or software. What happened in the interim?
You seem to react before someone can even get the entire thought out let alone trying to look at someones ELSE'S feelings through their eyes. This is crucial in relationships.
If you approach Jordan with this approach that seems to lack, completely, empathy, you will shut her down.
She NEEDS as many ppl as possible that love her like I know you both do to understand what she's been through with the 'excuses' she has. Including the 'OCD traits' that started her last year at Los Lomas.
When you have the opportunity to talk to her just listen and talk about your experiences and how they made you feel. Otherwise she'll think your going to judge her and tell her what to do and just avoid talking to you.
Please ask Linda about my old 'complaints' to her about my kids not being close to you or mom.
This should ring a bell as to how true your current belief system is. Katie too was told about some of it, but she could not recall and with Linda taking those SSRIs I'm afraid she too might not recall, but she might. Unless you prefer to believe these poisons that were inculcated by Wally and misunderstandings as well. You know my memory has always been better than yours, and it's beyond
me as to why you'd want to maintain the garbage you threw at me during our mom's passing of all times.
And you want to imply or state I have mental problems? (Sudden, adult onset, LOL!) You've had these "MEN" mental problems since you were a kid and with good reason, but why put them off onto others?
>
>--- On Thu, 3/5/09, t wrote:
>
>> From: t
>> Subject: Judge not lest ye not be judged
>> To: "Wendy Hughes"
>> Cc: "court"
>> Date: Thursday, March 5, 2009, 3:27 AM
>> Other issues of which you were unaware around the time of
>> mom's demise:
>>
>> 1) All the keys to the vehicles that to which I had access
>> were found removed one day.
>> 2) I was told by her brother in law that the "next
>> week I'd find my stuff out in the street." It was
>> raining. (I had put blankets in the RV should I come
>> 'home' and find the locks had been changed.(The
>> brakes had been tampered with.) He also attempted to scare
>> me with physical threats; lunging at me and when I did not
>> move he just said, "MOVE". He was a former "gang banger" about >> 350 lbs. and thought after all
>> the threats I was afraid of HIM.)
>> 3) My personal survival was threatened by all these mental
>> games, not to mention low income, at the end and at the
>> worst possible time. I was an emotional wreck you may recall
>> I "cared so little about mom" and my only support
>> had also been pulled when the news of Danny came in. Ida
>> turned into a ruthless "B" over "stuff", but her
>> sisters political career is set I'm sure. Watsonville
>> will have an Akimoto/Belgard politician real soon.
>> 4) It became obvious every time I went away my things were
>> being rifled through.
>> 5) A gun appears to have been switched with one that does
>> not match that which was returned by WCPD. What's the
>> history of my 'new' gun?
>>
>> All this with my long time ADHD did not add up to clear
>> thinking and 'hurting back' is an understatement; it
>> was 2 day recovery from that trip.
>>
>> Of course, again, as you say, I'm the common
>> denominator as anyone targeted by having been blacklisted
>> would be. Is that not kind of obvious? It was not to you.
>> how can you judge if you were afraid of even looking at the
>> evidence?
>>
>> Did you also avoid the negative evidence on your loans?
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